爱上一个人不需要靠努力，只需要靠“际遇”，是上天的安排，但是“持续地爱一个人”就要靠“努力”，在爱情的经营中，顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制（面临诱惑有所自制）。有许多人总是为“际遇”所迷惑与苦恼，意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散，而忘了培养经营感情的能力才是幸福的关键。

　　所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的mr.right，而是要问说在眼前的伴侣关系中，我能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度，若没有培养出经营幸福的能力，就算真的mr.right出现在你身边，幸福依然会错过的，而活在犹疑与遗憾当中，这不就是许多“爱情虚无症”的遭遇与心态吗？

　　若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣，不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了，我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱，就是“近亲生慢侮”，也就是经济学中的铁律“边际效益递减法则”，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木与忽视，而新鲜的“际遇”总是那么动人可爱。

　　在感情对待中，难免有摩擦与无心的伤害，而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人，当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢，又还没开始有得罪你的机会，再加上他的刻意讨好，所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱，旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。

　　但别忘了，新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数，旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的“际遇”中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手。

　　所以萧伯纳的话，是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一，应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上，同时也提醒我们“溺水三千只取一瓢饮”若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣，就不要再三心二意了，因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个，所以要知福惜福、活在当下。

　　缘分就是说——世界上的人虽多，但在下雨的深夜陪你回家的，实际上只有一个。

　　幸福的人善于忘记自己给过别人什么，却永远记得别人给过自己什么……

　　寻找幸福还不如好好用心经营幸福，好好珍惜现在所拥有的一切，有些东西失去了是永远也寻找不回来的了。其实幸福就在你身边！

Be in love with a person and don't need to depend on an effort, needs to depend on"chance", is a heavenly arrangement, but"love a person steadily" will depend a "effort", in the management of the love, the main factor of the smooth operation is a communication and makes allowance for,forgive with self-made.(face lure to have self-made)Have many persons to always is confuse by"chance"s with the affliction, the idea keeps read aloud,desire continuously,contend for and spread gradually, but forgot development a management the ability of[with] affection just is a happy key.

So don't would not° until cross-examine exactly who be my mr.right, but want to ask to say in the at present companion relation, I can work hard to arrive what extent and grow up to arrive what extent, if didn't ability that develop a management happiness, calculate true mr.right to appear at you nearby, the happiness would miss still of, but live in to hesitate is in the middle with regret, isn't this the situation and the mindset of much"love unreal disease"?

If you have already had a to last long concomitant companion at the moment, want again literally three hearts two the idea ground hesitated, we usually realize a trap in the affection not easily, be"the close relative living slow 侮 ", be also the iron 律 "the limit performance gradually decrease rule" in the economics, follow you together and more a long person, more easy numbness with neglect, but the fresh"chance" is a so moving amiability always.

In the affection treat, it is difficult to don't need to have already rub with the not intentional injury, and the theory give offense to an own number of times tired add the most persons, certainly is follow our together the most long and the most close person.But new sweetheart, haven't yet started have to give offense to you again of opportunity, and he tries to please intentionally, so the new sweetheart how to see how lovely, the old flame how to see how to dislike.

But don't forget, the new sweetheart body always has the unknown of the indetermination, the old flame body has to acquaint with feeling seldom,assurance feeling,the trust feeling.Never enchant an oneself in accidental"chance" literally, wrong put a happiness warm of hand.

So the words of the 萧伯纳 , want to remind a lover to want to be get oneself into a dead end in to look for that unique too, should use spirit on the ability of master the management happiness, also remind our"be drowned 3,000 take a 瓢 to drink" if be lucky to meet rare companion, want repeatedly heart two ideas, we know whole life never when will meet 20,000 among them several, so want to know the blessing cherishes blessing and live in at that moment.

Predestination be say-in the world of although the person is many, Be rain of the dead hour accompany you to go home of, actually only a.

The person of the happiness was good at to forget an oneself to give other people what, but remembered other people to give an oneself forever what ……

Look for a happiness a rather very friendly heart management a happiness still, like to cherish now everything own, some things lose is to also look for forever and come back of.In fact happy is nearby at you!